2023 Spicy Holiday Gift Guide
For those who had been following along on my socials during the month of November, you may have noticed that Santa popped by to get a bit of help this holiday season as he broadened his awareness of what is both naughty...and oh so nice! For those who missed it, here is a recap of my favourite ways to stuff your stocking and gift pleasure to those around you! If you'd like more info, or simply want a little chuckle, head on over to @FraserValleySexTherapist on Instagram to rewatch the video version!
Day 1: We-Vibe Melt
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
Built for clitoral stimulation, but can also add unique sensation along the shaft of a penis, this toy uses pleasure air technology that'll make you melt in no time! It’s sleek design makes it great for solo and partnered play!
Day 2: Okanagan joy
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
My all-time favourite lube, it’s a local, all-natural, organic product that mimics the feel of natural lubrication. It’s long lasting, doesn’t ball up or get sticky, and is safe for your body and your toys!
Day 3: The Adventure challenge--sweet & Spicy Bundle
My Favourite Place to Purchase
The Adventure Challenge: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code FVTherapy10 at checkout to save 10% off site-wide!
Why I Love It
Offers 30 mini-date ideas you can have fun with from the comfort of your home, AND 30 scratch off fun and sexy quickie challenges you can do in 30 mins or less. That means your date night can be a little naughty or a little nice, maybe even both if you’re really lucky!
Day 4: Satisfyer Endless Love
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
It can be used in over 14 ways, has three motors, 100+ vibration settings, and two arms for hugging (or pinching!) This toy can be used for both vulva and penis owners.
Day 5: Come as You are--by Dr. Emily nagowski
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Your favourite local independent bookstore!
Why I Love It
This is the go-to book for sex therapists and vulva-owners everywhere! Dr. Nagoski is AMAZING at normalizing the way our sexuality unfolds, and offering tangible guidance to finding your way back to being a sexual being.
Day 6: Fun factory menstrual cup
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
There’s a long line of products out there to help menstruating bodies bleed with dignity, and that means finding a product that works for everyone’s specific body type! The fun factory cup comes in two sizes, A for those with a lighter bleed or shorter vaginal canal, and size B for heavier days or a longer canal. These cups hold 4-6x more than your typical tampon, which means you can pop it in and go about your day without the fuss of changing.
Day 7: Lelo beads noir
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
Lelo beads are these great weighted balls that are body-safe and just slip on up into the vagina to help build muscle strength which offers the potential for stronger orgasms in the future, while also helping you attune to subtle internal vibrations caused by your movement—which is why I love wearing them while out and about! This can be a great product for those who struggle to get out of their minds and into their bodies, as they redirect their attention to those light sensations, a mindfulness practice that is super helpful when translated into sexual experiences later on!
Day 8: we-vibe nova 2
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
The Nova 2 is nice and flexible, which makes this dual vibe an excellent choice because we know that many vulvas and vaginas are shaped differently, and the more rigid toys are far from being a one size fits all! It’s got a sleek look and the dual motors focus on both external clitoral and internal g-area stimulation. I also really appreciate how ergonomic it’s shape is, as it also makes this toy accessible for those who might deal with hand cramps or struggle to easily grip in this position!
Day 9: Smart Sex: How to boost your sex IQ and own your plea
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Your favourite local independent bookstore!
Why I Love It
Dr. Emily is the renowned podcast host of Sex with Emily, and she’s dedicated her career to helping others learn all about sex, pleasure, and communication in a way that feels light-hearted and accessible! Her book Smart Sex shares all about how to find pleasure in your unique body, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation, how to communicate your needs with partners, and some great techniques for enhancing pleasure and orgasms! While you don’t need to be a Harvard grad to have good sex, there are definitely some tips she shares that can boost our sexual intelligence!
Day 10: Magic Wand Mini
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
This is fantastic on all external areas of the vulva and anus, as well as along the shaft of the penis, or gently pressed into the perineum between a penis owner’s testicals and anus. And, of course, it’s still my go to when I’ve slept funny on my neck and need a kink vibed out, too! It’s sleek and easy to clean, holds a hell of a charge, and is easy to use with only three vibration levels (but don’t get me wrong, it’s deep rumbles vibrate up to 6000 RPM!) Small, but mighty, let me tell you!
Day 11 and 12: we-vibe tease us kits
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
The We-Vibe Tease Us kits come in 3 models in order to promote inclusivity! This version has the We-Vibe Moxi, a fun little panty vibe as well as the We-Vibe Bond, a vibrating cock ring that has adjustable links to support girth size and easy release. But you can also get a set that has two Moxis or two Bonds, so pleasure can be found regardless of your relational makeup! And of course, they’re built to last with good quality, body-safe silicone. I do recommend a good water-based lube such as Okanagan Joy to go along with these toys, like any toys, of course, but also to add a moisture barrier to your bits and prevent chafing if you’re wearing for extended amounts of time.
Day 14: Intamo space oddity massage candle
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
This candle has such a relaxing scent and luxurious texture as it rubs into the skin! Perfect for pampering your partner with a sensual massage, or to incorporate into solo self-care time!
Day 15: Total submission cane
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Total Submission website, while this wasn't a regular item on the site, they have all kinds of goodies so check them out!
Why I Love It
As you can see in the video, the woodgrain is stunning, the cane is sturdy, and the ridges provide unique sensation during impact play experiences! I also love that they are a Canadian company, and that the owner is seeking to offer an informative way for beginners to explore BDSM and kink in a safe and supported way!
Day 16: We-Vibe Chorus
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
This couple's toy can be worn by vulva owners during solo or partnered play, offering both internal and clitoral stimulation. This toy can be connected to the We-Vibe Connect app, making it accessible by phone no matter where your partner is located, or can be used with the accompanying remote.
Day 17: Fun factory b balls duo
Why I Love It
This anal toy is made up of weighted balls that will rumble as you move, adding stimulation as you engage in various forms of play! The tapered tip, small neck and wide base make this booty-safe, and a fun toy for intermediate users. (As with all anal play, the anus is NOT self-lubricating, so find a good quality lube (like Okanagan Joy!) and use more than you think you'll need. Reapply often :) )
Day 18: Better Sex Through Mindfulness
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Your favourite local independent bookstore!
Why I Love It
Dr. Lori Brotto shows us how we can increase sexual desire, arousal and overall sexual satisfaction by incorporating more mindfulness into self-care regime (both in and outside of the bedroom!) She also has a workbook (same name) that offers practical guidance!
Day 19: Liberator axis Magic wand toy mount
My Favourite Place to Purchase
Intimate Wellbeing: Click the link below to go directly to the item!
Opportunity for Savings
Use code Fraservalleysextherapist at checkout to save 20% off site-wide on all orders over $69!
Why I Love It
This wedge pillow can help support the body in accessing various positions that might otherwise be uncomfortable. It has a washable cover, and space to hold your wand-style toys for hand's free pleasure.